Navigating parenting after separation or divorce is a complex and sensitive challenge. One crucial aspect is choosing a parenting schedule that aligns with the developmental needs of the children. This article explores different developmental stages of children and suggests various parenting schedules that could be beneficial at each stage.

Developmental Stages

Infants (0-2 years)

  • Needs: Consistent routines, frequent contact with both parents, stable and predictable caregiving.
  • Suggested Schedules: Shorter, more frequent visits with each parent. Avoid long separations from either parent. Example: 1/1, 2/3 or 3/4 split with mid-week visits.

Toddlers (2-3 years)

  • Needs: Regular routines, consistent caregiving, starting to understand time.
  • Suggested Schedules: Slightly longer stays with each parent. Examples: 4/3/3/4, 2/3/3/2, or 3/4 split with consistency in days.

Preschoolers (4-5 years)

  • Needs: Understanding of time increasing, importance of routine and predictability.
  • Suggested Schedules: Balanced time with each parent, maintaining a predictable routine. Example: , 4/3, 5/2/2/5, or 4/3/3/4.

Early School Age (6-8 years)

  • Needs: Stability, routine, involvement in school and extracurricular activities.
  • Suggested Schedules: Week-on/week-off schedules can work well. Example: 5/2/2/5, 4/3/3/4, or 7/7.

Preteens (9-12 years)

  • Needs: More involvement with peers, extracurricular activities, and school.
  • Suggested Schedules: Flexibility to accommodate activities, while ensuring quality time with each parent. Examples: 7/7 or 5/2/2/5 with adjustments as needed.

Teenagers (13-18 years)

  • Needs: Greater autonomy, involvement with friends, activities, and school.
  • Suggested Schedules: Flexible schedules that consider the teen’s preferences and commitments. Example: 7/7 with flexibility or a more customized schedule.

Considerations for All Ages

  • Consistency: Children benefit from a consistent routine, regardless of age.
  • Flexibility: Be willing to adjust schedules as children grow and their needs change.
  • Communication: Open and positive communication between parents and children is essential.


Selecting a parenting schedule that suits the developmental stage of your children is crucial. It’s important to remain flexible and adjust the schedule as your children grow and their needs evolve. Consulting with a child development specialist or a family counselor can provide additional insights tailored to your family’s unique situation.